Daughters

This is a video I made for my daughter. I played it at her birthday party that she decided to have at my place. It was a truly special day for me.

Three reasons why:

1) She has never asked to have a birthday at my place since my divorce 5 years ago

2) I allowed my ex in my house for the first time since we split

and

3) I absolutely LOVE my daughter.

Every time I hear the song Daughters by John Mayer, I start to tear up because the words mean so much to me. I thought it would be nice to play a video during her party to let her know exactly how much I love her.

She told me a few months later she cried after she saw it. I was running around so much at the party so I didn’t get to see her cry afterwards. If I saw that, I probably would have welled up too.

I have spent just about every day of my daughter’s life watching her grow from an infant to a young lady. It is an experience I will never ever forget. She is about to make the transition into her teenage years, and I really feel our bond is so strong that nothing will come between us. I often tell her, when she starts to date and look for a partner, whoever she is with has to treat her BETTER than I do. If not, she needs to kick him to the curb.

You see, us fathers really DO want to be there for our daughters. Daughters will love like we do. It is still infuriating to see people take their kids away from a good man and think that the influence of fathers is meaningless. I beg to differ. I’m not going to even go into the mountains of research proving that assumption wrong in this blog post. I suggest looking at our culture for the evidence of widespread fatherlessness and it’s wide ranging negative effects.

We matter!