#heforshe

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Women earn 57% of bachelor’s degrees, 63% of master’s degrees and 53% of doctorates. They constitute the majority of the U.S. workforce and the majority of managers. Single women without kids earn 8% more than single men without children in most cities. Women make up almost half of medical school applicants and nearly 80% of veterinary school enrollees. Maybe we need a #sheforhe hashtage to create some more”equality.”

You observe that “fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating”, and then you quote the dictionary which says that feminism is about equality. All perspectives to a greater or lesser degree must confront a gap between ideology and actual behaviour. That feminists constantly point to the dictionary rather than specific examples of how they actually treat men is a red flag.

For example, in the United States the National Organization for Women opposes shared parenting even though this is exactly the sort of issue one should support for gender equality. To make matters worse, feminists often blame fathers for not fighting hard enough against family court discrimination, ignoring the fact that these fathers usually lack the required financial resources to advocate for themselves. Similar blaming of women for discrimination they face is labelled misogyny.

I’m not saying that all feminists hate men, but a significant minority do (and there are plenty of quotations to prove it). Feminism in general, however, has tolerated misandry.

But more to the point, HeForShe strikes me as rather patriarchal and traditionalist. The primary male role is protecting and providing for women and children, even with his life if necessary. Is the sentiment “HeForShe” really all that different from “women and children first”?

The website states, “HeForShe is a solidarity movement for gender equality that brings together one half of humanity in support of the other [sic] of humanity”.

What it doesn’t say is “both halves of humanity supporting each other”.

Read the rest HERE: http://eldritchedain.wordpress.com/2014/09/21/an-open-letter-to-emma-watson/

 

Single fathers head a record number of American households with children

If single fathers spend more time now with our children and make more money than single mothers, why should mothers get custody at all?

Being a single parent is difficult. It doesn’t matter if you are male or female. I think it is time for our country to end the emphasis on single parenting and focus on how to get people to partner with each other in a much more efficient and sustainable manner. Glorifying single parenthood is destructive.

It is harder, more stressful and rough on your body and mind raising children on your own. I do not recommend it at all. In addition, the overwhelming evidence shows that children in married homes fare far better on average than those coming from single parent homes.

Can we finally say that this being single stuff ain’t workin’ out too well for our society? If you won’t say it, I will.

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There is yet another data point to add to the changing portrait of American parents: the number of single fathers has risen ninefold since demographers began measuring it more than 50 years ago.

Back in 1960 there were fewer than 300,000 households headed by single dads, according to an analysis of Census Bureau data released today by the Pew Research Center. By 2011 that had grown to more than 2.6 million. That’s more than twice the rate of growth of single mother-led households, which quadrupled in the same period, to 8.6 million from 1.9 million.

Yes, single mothers still ferociously outnumber single fathers. And yes, the percentage of households with minor children that are headed by dads is still small — only 8 percent of all US households at last count. But men reflect a growing portion of single parent households — almost one quarter, compared with only 14 percent in 1960. And, single parent households are a growing share of all American families; back in 1960, 92 percent of all households had two married parents raising children while in 2011 it was down to 67 percent.

The study found measurable differences between the homes of single mothers and fathers. First, there is more likely to be a partner present. Though the study defines a “single father” as an unmarried man who heads hisr household and lives with his own minor children, he is not necessarily the only parent present. Among these “single fathers”, 41 percent are cohabiting with a partner, far higher than the 16 percent of single mothers who are doing the same. Single fathers are also different from fathers in married households; married fathers are more likely to be older, better off financially and white.

Why the increase? Possible reasons include an increase in both the rate of divorce and non-marital births since 1960, both of which have contributed to an increase in the number of single parents of both sexes. At the same time, courts have been more likely to grant custody to fathers.

It is also a reflection of the changing role of fathers in general. They are, arguably, where women were a decade ago in their awareness that they want a different life/work equation but are not yet sure what theirs should be. They also want a different relationship with their children than their own fathers were expected to have. And they are definitely heading in the right direction, and taking the whole of society along with them.

Read more HERE

Feminism vs. Truth

Women in America are the freest in the world, yet many feminists tell us women are oppressed. They advocate this falsehood through victim mentality propaganda and misleading statistics, such as the gender wage gap myth. In five minutes, ‘s Christina Hoff Sommers tells you the truth about feminism.

 

ESPN: CONTROL YOUR EMPLOYEES!!!

A PERFECT comment by Cutter Sloan:

“Why don’t they even have control of their own players?” Well, Miss Storm, if that is your real name (it’s not) let me answer that with a question of my own. Why doesn’t ESPN have control of its employees? There is far less on air talent at ESPN than players in the NFL, how many incidents of unacceptable behavior has ESPN had? You had sexual harassment issues with Sean Salisbury, Harold Reynolds and Erik Kuselias, and Steve Phillips having an affair with a production assistant. Oh, and about a million sexual complaints against Mike Tirico who is still on Monday Night Football. You suspend Stephen A. Smith simply for stating his opinions, Kornheiser for insinuating that Hannah Storm doesn’t dress age appropriate and calling Boomer fat. You suspended Dana Jacobsen for getting plastered and saying “Fuck Jesus”. Jalen Rose was pulled off the air for drunk driving. You suspended and then fired Rob Parker for being a blatant racist, and fired a writer for calling Jeremy Lin a chink. Oh, and ESPN currently employs Keith Olbermann, I wonder how long it’ll be before he insults all republicans or Christians. Does your kid ask you about any of that, Hannah?”

“I think this is enough to ask the question; what does ESPN stand for? Does it stand for racism towards whites and asians, hostile work environments for women and the overweight, age discrimination for women, drunk driving, pornography, and hatred of Christians? The answer is, probably not. That is also the clear answer if similar questions are asked of the NFL. These are entities that employ a lot of people and things are going to happen. The problem is one of these entities has its people get on a soapbox and cast stones of judgment when it lives in a very large glass house itself. Unfortunately, there’s nobody to call for the heads of big wigs at ESPN for all this shit, because it’s not news to other news outlets and ESPN certainly isn’t going to do hard hitting investigations on themselves or allow its on air talent to give sanctimonious speeches (like what we see in this video) about ESPN. And it’s also pretty tasteless that she used her kid to try and make a point. Anybody actually believe she had this conversation with her child?”

College: Students must agree ‘why’ they had sex to avoid sexual assault charges

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A long time ago, it was considered morally best to wait until marriage to make love or have sex.

Now, it is considered sanest for men to wait until leaving school by graduating or quitting to have any sort of sexual contact with a college woman. I would even suggest a better way to go about this: date women OFF CAMPUS!

Take Ohio State off the list of colleges that my kids will attend. This and all of the others under the thumb of the Federal government through Title IX.

I hope people finally can see that this witch hunt, started by radical gender feminists is OUT OF CONTROL!

The dictionary definition of “feminism” does not describe the actions of the radicals who took it over and destroyed it. The problems with today’s feminism falls squarely on gender feminists’ shoulders. To save feminism from the Kung Fu grip that gender feminism has on it, I encourage fellow humans who hold that women should have the same social, political, and economic rights as men to wholeheartedly dissociate themselves from the radicals who are slowly killing it. I see it dying a slow and painful death because of the misinformation being disseminated.

All of the rubbish that has been spewing out of the mouths of these cultural Marxists have ruined families for 40 years, now they are set to destroy every aspect of heterosexual relationships, beginning with a simple kiss.

I feel that those who insist on dating and sex should take a lot of forms with them on dates so their sex partners can sign off every step of the way through climax. But first, send them to your lawyer and have it signed and notarized before asking for the kiss.

Also, make SURE you get a camera and record everything.

An excerpt from this blog post: http://libertyunyielding.com/2014/09/12/college-students-must-agree-sex-avoid-sexual-assault-charges/

At Ohio State University, to avoid being guilty of “sexual assault” or “sexual violence,” you and your partner now apparently have to agree on the reason WHY you are making out or having sex. It’s not enough to agree to DO it, you have to agree on WHY: there has to be agreement “regarding the who, what, where, when, why, and how this sexual activity will take place.”

There used to be a joke that women need a reason to have sex, while men only need a place. Does this policy reflect that juvenile mindset? Such a requirement baffles some women in the real world: a female member of the U.S. Commission on Civil Rights told me, “I am still trying to wrap my mind around the idea of any two intimates in the world agreeing as to ‘why.’”

Ohio State’s sexual-assault policy, which effectively turns some welcome touching into “sexual assault,” may be the product of its recent Resolution Agreement with the Office for Civil Rights (where I used to work) to resolve a Title IX complaint over its procedures for handling cases of sexual harassment and assault. That agreement, on page 6, requires the University to “provide consistent definitions of and guidance about the University terms ‘sexual harassment,’ ‘consent,’ ‘sexual violence,’ ‘sexual assault,’ and ‘sexual misconduct.’” It is possible that Ohio State will broaden its already overbroad “sexual assault” definition even further: Some officials at Ohio State, like its Student Wellness Center, advocate defining all sex or “kissing” without “verbal,” “enthusiastic” consent as “sexual assault.”

Ohio State applies an impractical “agreement” requirement to not just sex, but also to a much broader category of “touching” that is sexual (or perhaps romantic?) in nature. First, it states that “sexual assault is any form of non-consensual sexual activity. Sexual assault includes all unwanted sexual acts from intimidation to touching to various forms of penetration and rape.” Then, it states that “Consent is a knowing and voluntary verbal or non-verbal agreement between both parties to participate in each and every sexual act. . .Conduct will be considered “non-consensual” if no clear consent . . . is given. . . .Effective consent can be given by words or actions so long as the words or actions create a mutual understanding between both parties regarding the conditions of the sexual activity–ask, ‘do both of us understand and agree regarding the who, what, where, when, why, and how this sexual activity will take place?’”

This “agreement” requirement is impractical, because unlike sex (where there is generally an implicit agreement among the participants before it can even happen, since sex is difficult to do without active cooperation), no one agrees in advance – verbally or non-verbally – to have someone touch them in a particular place while making out. No one ever says, “may I touch your breast” before doing it while making out. They may (and usually do) welcome (and enjoy) it after it occurs, but they don’t specifically “agree” to it in advance (indeed, they may have expected the touch to occur in a different place, even if they found it pleasant). The very process of making out is a gradual escalation of intimacy step by step, without constant discussion or an endless series of agreements. That may be impossible under Ohio State’s policy, not just because it requires “agreement” (rather than mere “acquiescence”) but also because it expresses hostility to the concept of “consent to one form of sexual activity” being a signal of receptiveness to other, slightly more intimate “forms of sexual activity.” But that’s exactly what happens in making out: when you acquiesce in one form of touching or other “sexual activity” long enough, that signals a likely willingness to engage in slightly more intimate forms of touching — although you are free to rebut that presumption of willingness at any time simply by saying “no” or physically conveying your unwillingness. Such fluid interaction is threatened by Ohio State’s definition, which states that that “Consent to one form of sexual activity does not imply consent to other . . . sexual activity,” that there must be “agreement between both parties to participate in each and every sexual act,” that only “clear consent” counts, and that “Consent can never be assumed, even in the context of a relationship.”

If this definition of “sexual assault” were not already broad enough, Ohio State’s Student Wellness Center seeks to radically narrow the concept of consent further (and ban “kissing” without verbal consent as “sexual assault”). It says consent must be “verbal,” “enthusiastic,” and must be “asked for every step of the way”; “If consent is not obtained prior to each act of sexual behavior (from kissing to intercourse), it is not consensual sex,” it says. Consent also must also be a litany of other things, such as “sober,” “informed,” “honest,” “wanted,” and “creative.”

This fixation on consensual “agreement” is ironic, because it logically has little to do with Title IX, which is concerned with sexual harassment, which is about what would is unwelcome, not “agreements” or even “consent.” To be sexual harassment, conduct has to be “unwelcome,” a concept that is both broader and narrower than “consent,” as the Supreme Court explained in its Meritor decision. (To violate Title IX, sexual harassment also has to be severe enough to interfere with your education, and be the sort of thing that would offend a reasonable person in your position).

Read the rest HERE

Arizona statutory rape victim forced to pay child support

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An excerpt from this article: http://www.azcentral.com/story/news/arizona/politics/2014/09/02/arizona-statutory-rape-victim-forced-pay-child-support/14951737/

Nick Olivas became a father at 14, a fact he wouldn’t learn for eight years.

While in high school, Olivas had sex with a 20-year-old woman. As he sees it now, she took advantage of a lonely kid going through a rough patch at home.

Nick Olivas became a father at 14, a fact he wouldn’t learn for eight years.

State law says a child younger than 15 cannot consent with an adult under any circumstance, making Olivas a rape victim. But Olivas didn’t press charges and says he didn’t realize at the time that it was even something to consider.

MONTINI: Statutory rape victim paying child support? Come on …

The two went their separate ways. Olivas graduated from high school, went to college and became a medical assistant.

Then two years ago, the state served him with papers demanding child support. That’s how he found out he had a then-6-year-old daughter.

“It was a shock,” he said. “I was living my life and enjoying being young. To find out you have a 6-year-old? It’s unexplainable. It freaked me out.”

He said he panicked, ignored the legal documents and never got the required paternity test. The state eventually tracked him down.

Olivas, a 24-year-old Phoenix resident, said he now owes about $15,000 in back child support and medical bills going back to the child’s birth, plus 10 percent interest. The state seized money from his bank account and is now garnisheeing his wages at $380 a month.

He has become one of the state’s 153,000 active child-support cases, according to the Arizona Department of Economic Security division of Child Support Services.

Read the rest HERE