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Backlash: College men challenge ‘guilty until proven innocent’ standard for sex assault cases
An excerpt from this article: http://washingtonexaminer.com/backlash-college-men-challenge-guilty-until-proven-innocent-standard-for-sex-assault-cases/article/2551863
Kevin Parisi is 5 feet, 5 inches tall and barely weighs 120 pounds.
He’s hunched over and walking with a cane after back surgery earlier this year. He suffers from severe anxiety and digestive disorders, along with extreme allergies and panic attacks.
But in his junior year at Drew University in Madison, N.J., Parisi was accused of forcing a fellow student — one who is now a professional athlete — to have sex with him.
He was kicked off campus and placed under investigation. Three months went by before he was found “not responsible” in a campus disciplinary proceeding. Local police never filed charges against him.
Being accused, however, was enough to cause his world to collapse. Now he is suing Drew for assuming he was guilty from the outset and treating him as such until it was determined he was innocent.
He is also suing his accuser and her boyfriend at the time, claiming they concocted the false allegation to preserve their relationship. The Washington Examiner has chosen not to publish their names.
“The whole world seems hopeless and like, your heart pounds and the world — the walls — kind of close in on you,” Parisi, 21, told the Examiner of his frequent panic attacks, which he says were made worse by the allegations.
“It’s just, it’s … If you haven’t experienced one, I don’t know how you could understand. It’s just really — dread. A sense of dread. Nothing’s ever going to be better,” he said.
Parisi is one of at least 30 men who are striking back against campus rules on sexual assault that deny them due process by assuming their guilt. Their ranks have quadrupled since 2011.
This reversal of one of the bedrock principles of the American justice system stems from a bizarre interpretation of the Title IX provision in the Education Amendments of 1972 designed to protect women from discrimination.
The interpretation has been forced on universities by the Obama administration, and it thrives on many American college campuses, thanks to politically correct cultures that take women’s words at face value while assuming the worst about men.
Elizabeth Price Foley, a Florida International University law professor, described the problem with the interpretation of Title IX as benefiting women at the expense of men in a “he said/she said” situation.
“The Department of Education under the Obama administration has adopted shockingly broad new guidelines under Title IX that not only encompass off-campus behavior — that should be no business of a college or university — but also require the use of a low ‘preponderance of the evidence’ standard for sexual assault claims,” Price Foley told the Examiner.
“The individuals who hear these claims are generally predisposed to find in favor of a female accuser, and young men are sometimes severely punished by colleges and universities based on little more than a bare accusation made by someone whose memory of events is questionable,” she added.
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Women Against Feminism
Dad’s Don’t Get Work-Life Balance Empathy
An excerpt from this article: http://www.timsackett.com/2014/08/08/dads-dont-get-work-life-balance-empathy/
Friends and colleagues often ask my wife how she balances her job and motherhood. Somehow, the same people don’t ask me.”
When we talk about ‘inclusion’ we aren’t really talking about everyone. That’s the problem. We wonder how possibly a woman could handle the pressures of being a CEO and being a Mom, but we never wonder, or even care, how a man handles the pressure of being a CEO and a Dad. It’s expected a man can do both, we question if a woman can do both.
There is a cultural expectation, wrongly, that as a man I can be CEO and a Dad and perform just fine. As a woman, I’ll have trouble doing both jobs, because the Mom does more than the Dad. The mom cooks and cleans and nurtures and schedules and kisses booboos and, well, does everything for the family. The lazy asshole Dad comes home and waits for the Mom to fix him dinner and his drink. Really!?! Is that where we are in 2014?
I’m a Dad and a President of a company. I feel for Max. My wife does a ton, it can’t even be measured. I don’t expect her to do everything and help out a ton with parenting when and where I can. I assume if the roles were changed and my wife was a CEO, I would have to pick up more of her home and parenting duties.
This goes beyond just duties, though, this is about emotional connection. As a Dad, like Max, why should I have less of a connection as a parent than my wife. Why do we throw that cultural expectation onto our employees, on to our executives? As a father I frequently feel failure. Maybe it’s because I missed being able to have lunch with my son at school. Maybe it’s because my wife has a stronger relationship with my kids than I do. Maybe it’s because I trying to live up to a cultural expectation that I should be less of a parent.
No one ever wants to talk about how hard a man has it, trying to be a father and work. It’s not ‘politically’ correct. Men have it easier. End of story. That sucks sometimes.
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I AM THE WORLD’S WORST LESBIAN
I wish all feminist thought like this. From this post: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/lax/55453552.html
It’s true. I don’t do anything like a normal feminist lesbian would. And I AM A FEMINIST LESBIAN.
First: I like men. I like men so much it’s pathetic. I like how they smell. I like how they feel when they’re next to you. I like how SIMPLE THEY ARE. And I don’t mean dumb, but guys are so not complicated. GUYS SEE BOOBS AND GET EXCITED. That’s what I mean by simple. Women see a naked guy and think: 1: He’s cute. 2: Do I want him to be the father of my children? 3: Could I spend the rest of my life with him? 4: I wonder how much a wedding costs these days. 5: I need to get Modern Brides Magazine. 6: I forgot what I was doing before this. 7: Huh, well, I’m sure it wasn’t important.
Secondly: I love other people’s children. I love to hold them and play with them. I love to find fun gifts for them. When my gay wife and I were at a fancy restaurant once, this couple came in with a one year old, and you would’ve thought they had leprosy. When they sat next to us, they said, “Sorry.” And we said, “Are you kidding? We love kids!” We proceeded to engage him our whole meal. The other thing is, there is something about my gay partner that BABIES AND CHILDREN LOVE. I am not kidding. Time and time again she walks into a room filled with people and in about two minutes. children have gravitated toward her. I have seen children toddle across a crowded restaurant, their arms outstretched, toward her. They are never disappointed when they arrive. They are swept up and doted on.
Third: I love my Christian neighbors. We live across the street from a religious seminary and the entire neighborhood is dense with Christians. We happen to live with them on all sides. They have been very kind to us, helping us out with yard work when my partner was gone 24/7 for the first 6 weeks after 9/11 (she’s a federal agent with the FAA). We have helped them out by securing free tickets to Disney and the Universal Tour, or finding “chores” we need done that we can oay the kids to do. Our neighbors on the other side, when I moved in, Raffi, the husband, who owns a window cleaning business, came over and cleaned our windows for FREE. They are Armenian, and his parents live with them. I know they think we will end up in hell, but they have NEVER preached to us or treated us with anything but kindness and respect. Recently, we surprised his three little kids with brand new bicycles outside their Jesus Manger on Christmas morning. Raffi had had a very hard year financially, and the kids Christmas was going to be lean. J woke me up at 6 am yelling: They’re up! And we snuck outside, put the bikes by the manger then ran back and turned on the video camera. I then spent 2 hours running my fat ass up and down the sidewalk as they learned to ride. On New Year’s Eve, Raffi’s wife and smallest child brought a tart over that clearly said: To J and C, Love, Raffi and Family. We love them. They love us.
Fourth: I love the Howard Stern Show. I think he’s funny. And when I don’t like what he’s saying, or when it gets too dumb, I CHANGE THE STATION. Yeah, weird how easy that is. I had been a fan for years when a star I was working with was on as a guest. I had told this star, BEFORE he went on: DO NOT TELL HIM I’M A LESBIAN. Because the first thing he will say is: “Is she hot?” And I know the answer. And it’s not one you want to hear on national radio. But, sure enough, said star OUTTED ME. ON NATIONAL RADIO. He mentioned my name and then said: “She doesn’t like men.” Howard said: You mean she’s a lesbian?” Star: “Yeah.” Howard: “Well that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like men. And then he said, “Let’s just change the subject, she probably doesn’t want to be outted on national radio.”
Fifth: I am a staunch old school feminist who was raised with brothers and I believe men have been getting as raw a deal as women in the last ten years. Here’s why: There is this very polarizing ideology of feminism which is not about EQUALITY but about: WOMEN ARE BETTER THAN MEN. Women talk like this all the time. Like about how dumb men are and how the female way of approaching problems and feelings is superior to the male model. I mean, this is ridiculous and insulting. I have brothers. They have feelings. They are both very smart. The difference between men and women is BIOLOGICAL. It has nothing to do with being smarter or dumber, it is about two different brains that contain two very different hormones and how those hormones drive thought and behavior. THESE chemicals and biological drives were wired that way for a reason. Long before we became agrarian, God, or Evolution, created really muscle-y hunters who could defend against attacks on the family and who NEEDED TO MATE EARLY AND OFTEN to ensure that the species did not die out. Hence: Testosterone. It makes men strong, fast, and loaded for bear. It also makes them very visual. They need to be able to pick out the best of the females in order to have the strongest offspring. So: BOOBS=ERECTION. WOMEN on the other hand, needed to BOND with their baby, and IN ORDER FOR HER TO SURVIVE, she needed to stay with one mate, who would care for her and their baby. IN THE WILD, WHEN A FEMALE APE’S MATE DIES, THE NEW MATE OFTEN KILLS THE OLD MATE’S OFFSPRING. So, there is no advantage for women to change partners. They are biologically wired for monogamy. Hence: Estrogen. Now, I believe in the same way we have created entire systems for honoring the female path, we need to learn some kind of respect for the male model. I’ve been able to do it and I’m an angry feminist dyke, surely other women can find a way (see number one above). And, if you are not yet convinced, let me say this one last thing in defense of men: No, they don’t talk about their feelings very much, but they work, and bring home paychecks, and love their kids. I have a gay wife, and I have a mother who lives nearby, and I am responsible for seeing that they have enough money to pay bills. I don’t mind this. I make a great deal of money. My partner does work, but I like for her to have extras. With my mother, I am expected to climb on the roof in the pounding rain if there is a leak in her roof. I pay her mortgage, any and all repairs, her utilities and handle any and all electronics breakdowns and hookups. In the last year I came to the realization that I am apparently the guy. And it gave me a new respect for how so many men do these things and never really say anything. Finally, let me say, in all the mudslides in California, in a number of instances, men, passing by, jumped into a barreling mudslide/raging floodwaters to snatch children out of the jaws of certain death. I’m not saying women WOULDN’T do this, but I am saying, MEN CAN. One father dug and dug desperately thinking he could clear tons of earth and reach his family. Again, not that a woman wouldn’t, but don’t tell me men are dumb and can’t express their feelings.
That’s my rant for today. I am lucky that I love both men and women, life is so much better with both of them.
Due Process, Clarity Suffer As Feds Tackle Campus Sexual Assault
The main gate of Tufts University in Medford.
Credit Wikimedia Commons
An excerpt from an article written by Robert Shibley, an attorney, is Senior Vice President of the Foundation for Individual Rights in Education (FIRE).
On Tuesday, the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault unveiled its first report. Created after a record number of complaints filed by students against universities about their handling of sexual assault on campus, including complaints against Harvard and Tufts, the task force made recommendations to colleges on how they can better prevent and address sexual harassment and assault. Unfortunately, students’ rights to due process and fundamental fairness have been lost in the shuffle.
One of the first questions many people ask on this issue is, “Why are colleges holding rape trials anyway?” Good question. They do so because they are required to under Title IX, the 1972 federal law banning sex discrimination in educational programs. But don’t bother looking at the text of Title IX, which makes no mention of rape hearings at all. The requirement instead comes from mountains of federal regulations and piecemeal statutes that hold colleges to standards that are nearly impossible to meet or even comprehend.
Tufts is currently finding this out the hard way. The university came to a voluntary agreement with the Boston office of the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights (OCR, the agency tasked with enforcing the statute) on April 17 over how to remedy past Title IX problems. But just days later, the Washington OCR office told Tufts that its new policies also failed to comply with Title IX.
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Rape is perhaps the most serious felony other than murder. Whether one in five women on campus are victims of rape (as the White House claims) or the figure is more like 3 percent (as another study suggests) makes little difference as far as real justice is concerned. Serious crimes call for serious procedures and the consistent involvement of law enforcement professionals. Both victims and those accused on campus deserve better than what they’re getting now — or what they’re likely to get as a result of the White House task force’s report.
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