Family, Fatherhood, Marriage, Relationships, Society

Bumbling Dads

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As women left Montclair, N.J., for marches in Washington and New York, family routines were radically altered, and many fathers had to meet weekend demands alone.

http://www.nytimes.com/2017/01/22/nyregion/womens-march-montclair-nj.html?smprod=nytcore-iphone&smid=nytcore-iphone-share

Is this another “bumbling dad” piece?

 

This is The Onion right?

 

Kids need both parents. I’ve been saying this for years. When I learned about the movements in the 70’s through the 90’s to make it seem like fathers were the secondary parent, I dug deeper into the concept and realities of fatherhood.

Many thought, and apparently still think we are only good for the amount of money we can bring in for mothers or only good for the dollars that get taken out of our checks for “child” support.

Well you all are dead wrong.

I asked a few people recently what cause they are willing to go to jail for or even die for. This was because so many women were about to go to D.C. to march in solidarity with other women. After a few minutes of serious thought, that cause for me is the God given right to be 100% involved in my children’s lives without state interference.

NO ONE is taking my kids away. Not even that horrific, mother biased hell hole they call “family court.”

Yes, we can take care of the kids while mothers go and do their thing to protest trump or simply go to work. We can manage just fine without you. It’s ok ladies. We won’t burn the food, drown the kids in the shower, have toilet paper spread over the house. We got this. In fact, many of us have parenting skills that are often BETTER than mothers. Yeah, it’s true.

This is from a follow up piece on the New York Times about bumbling dads:

Here’s the silver lining, and the part I found exhilarating. The Metro editor, Wendell Jamieson, whose section produced the piece, unequivocally acknowledged that it was a mistake. “It was a bad idea from the get-go,” Jamieson said. “It was conceived with the best intentions, but it fell flat. And I regret it.”

Comment away…I’m ready to discuss the value of men, masculinity and fatherhood forever.

I’m sick of the idea of the bumbling dad. It’s 2017.

 

Society

Battered Voter Syndrome -#trump

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I’m going to slightly paraphrase a comment I read recently:

“Just a few things I’ve heard the last two months:
1. Give him a chance.
2. Maybe it won’t be that bad.
3. All politicians are horrible.
4. He’ll get better once in office.

Just a few things I’ve heard from victims of domestic violence:
1. I’ll just give him/her another chance
2. It’s not that bad.
3. All men/women aren’t like this.
4. He’ll/She’ll get better once we’re married.
Just a few things I’ve heard months/years later:
1. She’s dead
2. He’s in a coma
3. She killed our child.
4. He’s now beating his new girlfriend.”
No.

I’m never giving him a chance.

Just like I’ll never give my ex a chance. You’re a fool if you give people like this any chances.

He’s unstable, a narcissist, he’s incapable of empathy and compassion and he’s a truly horrible human being. He must have road blocks put in front if every move he makes as temporary president. He must be rattled, poked, prodded, provoked and pushed around until he commits a flagrant foul and is run out of D.C.

 

He will never be forgiven for the horrid language and vile rhetoric.

Never.

Leave a comment ONLY after the following has been completed:

1) he locks her up

2) the wall is built and paid for by Mexico

3) Obamacare is repealed and replaced with something wonderful

4) there’s a Muslim ban

5) manufacturing jobs come back to the rust belt states

6) he unifies the country

7) the 65 million of us who despise him see how great of a president he is

 

Until then, he must be treated like the sociopath we all know he is. We will make sure he is not allowed to destroy this nation and make himself wealthier.

 

 

 

Society

Obamacare vs. Affordable Care Act

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Yeah….

There are plenty of videos showing how stupid liberal college kids are. Well, it’s your turn to look just as dumb.

Congrats to you fools. These are the people who voted in that idiot who is now president.

Good luck when the GOP gets rid of that Obamacare thing (and your beloved Affordable Care Act) at the same time!

You suckers!

 

 

 

 

Society

How Journalists Can Get Access To Trump

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I love this.

I don’t think he understands the rules of engagement. Check this out.

And excerpt from an article called, “An open letter to Trump from the US press corps”

Access is preferable, but not critical. You may decide that giving reporters access to your administration has no upside. We think that would be a mistake on your part, but again, it’s your choice. We are very good at finding alternative ways to get information; indeed, some of the best reporting during the campaign came from news organizations that were banned from your rallies. Telling reporters that they won’t get access to something isn’t what we’d prefer, but it’s a challenge we relish.

Off the record and other ground rules are ours—not yours—to set. We may agree to speak to some of your officials off the record, or we may not. We may attend background briefings or off-the-record social events, or we may skip them. That’s our choice. If you think reporters who don’t agree to the rules, and are shut out, won’t get the story, see above.

We decide how much airtime to give your spokespeople and surrogates. We will strive to get your point of view across, even if you seek to shut us out. But that does not mean we are required to turn our airwaves or column inches over to people who repeatedly distort or bend the truth. We will call them out when they do, and we reserve the right, in the most egregious cases, to ban them from our outlets.

Read the rest HERE

 

A day in the life, Divorce, Family, Fatherhood, Marriage

How Do You Spell Dad? L-O-V-E

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Waking up at the crack of dawn sucks. It just does. Well, it does for me.

I’ve never been a morning person. I never will be. I like to get up at about 9 or 10AM. Well, that’s just not the life I’ve chosen to live.

You see, I get up so early for a reason.

 

I usually arrive home from work at 11PM. I’m totally wired and wide awake. I eventually wind down so I can get to sleep at around 1AM. My alarm goes off in the morning, but I snooze for a few more minutes before I jump out of bed. I try to shake the cobwebs out of my brain and think of where I parked my car so I can go pick up my kids.

I drive over to my ex-wife’s house and get my kids at 7:15AM. We spend about 45 minutes to an hour getting to school. There are mornings where we just listen to the radio. We sometimes laugh about stories from the previous day or if we see something silly on the way. When a serious event happens in our country, we might have a brief thought provoking discussion. When I see the opportunity, I let my kids know about some cold hard truths about growing up in America. They soak it all up like sponges. In the end, I have that special time with just me and my kids. It’s time well spent.

I get the balance of my sleep some time during the day by taking naps if I’m not working. I ain’t afraid to admit, I LOVE naps. Later in the day, I pick them up from school and we spend the afternoon together at my place until I bring them to their mom’s house after I cook them dinner.

It’s exhausting, but totally worth every hour I miss of sleep during the night.

Why do I do this to myself? Well, I asked this question this morning when I got out of bed. As soon as I thought of that question, I got my answer.

It’s because I love them. I really do.

After 14 years of fatherhood, nothing has changed. I’ve been there since the beginning. I’m glad I saw every little step my kids have taken over the years and witnessed every little development along the way. Our time is very limited on this planet and I am making sure I spend as much of it as I possibly can with my kids before they are adults and off on their own.

I wasn’t going to allow any silly “family court” system to keep me away from this. I’ll lose all kinds of sleep but I won’t lose out on being a father. That’s just not going to happen. I made sure of that.

Fathers….

We love our kids as much as mothers. We care too. We want to be there as much as we can even though we may be tired, working long hours, traveling, busting our ass to get a promotion or more money or any other thing that might keep us temporarily separate.

Dads…

We are not the babysitter. We are the guidance the protection, the focus, the spiritual uplift, the support system, the provider, the backbone, the rock, the stability, the L-O-V-E.

I heard about this artist and song today after chatting with a colleague of mine named Felton Offard on Facebook. (he’s an amazing guitarists by the way). He hipped me to this guy Sho Baraka. Sho has a great new album out called ” The Narrative.”

I think this is right on point:

I learned that love ain’t based on performance
Make a mistake and I will love you in the morning
I see life in my children’s eyes
And when I’m wrong I’ll be the first to apologize
Peace to all my fathers who are working through their flaws
Fulfilling their duties and they don’t do it for applause
It’s true, any fool with a tool can reproduce
But a father is that dude that’ll see it through
Forget the stereotypes lets be clear
There are good men out there we are here

……………..

How do you spell dad?
It goes L-O-V-E
How do you spell dad?
It goes L-O-V-E
How do you spell dad?