Tag: fatherhood

Balancing Acts

I have been fortunate enough to have been a stay at home dad for the past 12 years. I didn’t spend every single day with my kids due to a short period where I chose to live the 9-5 lifestyle…

UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN: WITHHOLDING SEX, DISCOUNTING FEELINGS ARE ‘SEXUAL VIOLENCE’

An excerpt from this article: http://www.thecollegefix.com/post/19448/ Examples of abuse listed on the University of Michigan’s domestic violence awareness website say “sexual violence” includes “withholding sex and affection” and “discounting the partner’s feelings regarding sex” – definitions that have come under fire…

Women against #WomenAgainstFeminism

An excerpt from this article: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/women-against-womenagainstfeminism/article19970342/ Do we still need feminism? According to many younger women, we do not. For the past few weeks, a Tumblr hashtag campaign called #WomenAgainstFeminism has been stirring up a lot of angst in the Twitter/blogosphere.…

Dad’s Don’t Get Work-Life Balance Empathy

An excerpt from this article: http://www.timsackett.com/2014/08/08/dads-dont-get-work-life-balance-empathy/ Friends and colleagues often ask my wife how she balances her job and motherhood. Somehow, the same people don’t ask me.” When we talk about ‘inclusion’ we aren’t really talking about everyone. That’s the…

Daughters

This is a video I made for my daughter. I played it at her birthday party that she decided to have at my place. It was a truly special day for me. Three reasons why: 1) She has never asked…

Happy pre-Father’s Day!

I could save this for Sunday but this is what life is all about. Kids need their mother AND their father.

For all of you reading this who are pissed off at your ex for whatever reason, your children aren’t. They will always be in a search for the other half of their DNA in one way or another if one half isn’t a constant presence in their lives.

The good thing about this video is that these parents are working together.

If you aren’t able to do what you see in this video, find a way. Separate your pain from your child’s need for balance.

I could go on and on and on, but you can visit by blog or call me on the phone for more reasons why fathers matter.

Happy pre-Father’s Day!

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Mass Incarceration

#yestoomanybrownMEN Hashtag activism is futile. Real activism has been taking place on the streets, in city council and in the state legislature. It also takes place in the HOME. Children do best with their fathers IN THE HOME..not in the…

When Men Are Raped

For some kinds of sexual victimization, men and women have roughly equal experiences Photo by Thomas Northcut/Thinkstock By Hanna Rosin – an excerpt from this article on Slate: http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/04/male_rape_in_america_a_new_study_reveals_that_men_are_sexually_assaulted.html Last year the National Crime Victimization Survey turned up a remarkable…

Get Up, Stand Up!

BY MICHAEL COREN ,QMI AGENCY An excerpt from THIS article: http://www.torontosun.com/2014/05/08/its-time-to-stand-up-for-mens-rights What I encountered was evidence of a campaign to discredit men and a legal and sociological campaign to remove their rights as husbands and partners and, in particular, fathers. I’m…

The World’s Toughest Job

Here is a different take on that silly viral video that was an advertisement for greeting cards…a thing that I DETEST anyway.

Motherhood is NOT the most difficult job. It’s not even a job. Neither is fatherhood. The thing is, parenting is not a job at all. It has some things in common with a job, but it’s a whole different thing altogether. As parents, we don’t get paid, we can’t quit if we get angry or pissed off, we can’t look around for better parenting jobs, we can’t sue our employer. In fact, we don’t even have an employer! We don’t have the option of not taking our work home with us when we don’t want to, we don’t receive any training, etc.

So to start with, the whole idea of parenthood being a job is nonsense from the beginning. Then, to go on and on with exaggerating the amount of work and expertise needed to be a parent, it not only creates guilt on the part of parents, it also makes it seem like the best parents are the ones who treat their kids as helpless and endangered for as long as possible. The quicker we raise self-sufficient, self-reliant human beings, the better. It is better for parents, better for children and better for society in general.

I can see through the nonsense of bullshit advertisement schemes and I hope that you do too in the future.

 

 

 

Sexual Assault on Campus–Is It Exaggerated?

An excerpt from this article by Cathy Young: http://www.mindingthecampus.com/originals/2011/04/_by_cathy_young_1.html Earlier this month, shortly after the announcement of a sexual harassment investigation targeting Yale University, the Department of Education’s Office of Civil Rights issued a “Dear Colleague Letter” to colleges on the…